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Dear Eric: My parents immigrated after World War II, arriving with $20 and a lot of determination. They worked hard, built a home, a successful business and raised five kids who all went to college and had many more opportunities than they did. Both of our parents passed away a few years ago and I miss them dearly.

One of my brothers has a long...Read more

Dear Eric: I'm the first to recognize we live in a different world than 20 or 25 years ago. That is to say everything seems to have become so fast-paced; everyone is always busy, no time for anything, expectations of instant gratification.

Is it becoming more commonplace to forgo what was once common practice? Recently, a close (immediate) ...Read more

Dear Eric: I allowed the daughter of a cousin, with whom I am not close, to move in with me while she finishes college. When she moved in last January it was supposed to be for a semester, but this is the longest semester I have ever seen.

We had an incident where she left gobs of hair all over my bathroom, which I had to clean up. I told her ...Read more

Dear Eric: My daughter-in-law's mother asked my girlfriend to make a dessert for another daughter's bridal shower. My girlfriend made a tray of lemon bars, so it wasn't a huge undertaking for her.

The issue is that my girlfriend was not invited to the shower. She never charges people for when she makes desserts since she loves to bake. Are we ...Read more

Dear Eric: My goddaughter is getting married in December. Her parents have experienced crushing financial loss through no fault of their own. So, I told my goddaughter I would contribute $500 to the wedding dress.

She picked out a dress without consulting me that cost nearly 10 times that much and sent me a picture of the receipts. After much ...Read more

Dear Eric: I had a starter marriage many years ago that only lasted a couple of years. We got married too young and I quickly realized that I had nothing in common with my wife. We divorced but she returned to me after a few months wanting to get back together. The problem is she admitted cheating on me with a married man.

We tried to make a go...Read more

Dear Eric: I am the stepmother to two great young men. Their father and I have been together since they were teenagers. When they were young, it was a difficult but necessary position for me to be in when it came to teaching them about manners and household chores. They thought I was nagging them to put a napkin on their lap, take their hat off ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have an 18-year-old daughter who just moved four hours away to college. Her father and I have been separated for almost three years. Prior to moving to college, she visited him only during court-ordered visitation. She felt like he did not want her around or he made no effort to have a relationship with her.

She recently came home ...Read more

Dear Eric: Three years ago, I invited my 24-year-old son to stay with me in my one-bedroom condo while he saved for a place of his own. During that time, I struggled with alcohol and then needed emergency surgery for something unrelated that has devastated me physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.

I maintained my sobriety for ...Read more

Dear Eric: My sister-in-law, Suzy, married John 51 years ago in a state distant from where we lived at the time. I am married to John’s older brother. I was seven months pregnant with our third child, and we were living paycheck to paycheck at the time, which made spending money on travel and accommodations a burden.

But the real reason I did...Read more

Dear Eric: My sister, Olivia, died unexpectedly about a year ago. I received the call. I in turn called my other brother and sister. Of my family, only Olivia and I were close. My brother bullied us mentally and physically during our childhood.

She has an adult son, who decided to let the state take care of things, as they were both transient. ...Read more

Dear Eric: The home next door is vacant. I think it is a rental property. There is a huge tree in the front yard that is coming over my property. A tree from this property fell on my house a few years ago. This caused my homeowner's insurance to be canceled because it was considered to be an act of nature.

I need to see if this can be avoided ...Read more

Dear Eric: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for four years. His daughter still lives at home. She's kind of estranged from her mother but still gets together with her on Sundays to go to church.

I spend the weekends with him. The issue is that the ex-wife comes into the house and now the ex-mother-in-law is coming over. He even ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have a 10-year relationship unmarried. My girlfriend continues to communicate with her 50-year-old son. Having him determine for her what to do in the relationship. She does not want to communicate with me. She tells me one day she loves me, the next day she does not want to talk.

Should I just end the relationship? I've tried to ...Read more

Dear Eric: Many companies are training their employees to "be friendlier." Now, when I go to pay for my groceries or have bloodwork done at a lab, someone invariably asks me, "so what are you doing the rest of your day?" I find that to be very intrusive from someone I don't know and may never see again. I understand they have been trained so it ...Read more

Dear Eric: I am in my late 30s. I live halfway across the country from my parents, and don't have the best relationship with them. I also have a brother four years younger than me who I have been estranged from for 20 years.

My brother doesn't live with my parents, but he lives in the same city my parents do. If I visit, my parents will tell ...Read more

Dear Eric: My house has become a mess – clutter everywhere – after going through a season of depression. I’m now in counseling, on medication and finally starting to feel better, but the mess feels too overwhelming to tackle. I’m ashamed to ask anyone for help, and I really want to get my home back in shape on my own.

I’d love to be ...Read more

Dear Eric: My son-in-law’s father does not seem to feel the need to trim his nose hair which is quite bushy and hangs out of his nose. Apparently, his wife has asked him to do something about this, but he chooses to ignore her and neither of his sons want to talk to him about it even though it bothers them too.

We host Thanksgiving at our ...Read more

Dear Eric: I recently set boundaries with a friend who would vent to me about another friend of theirs, with whom I'm only barely acquainted.

I asked them to stop processing this other friendship of theirs with me; it felt toxic. I told them I felt sad to spend the little time we have together talking about someone, when we could be talking ...Read more

Dear Eric: We have a neighbor a few doors up who hates us. We don’t really know why, but he doesn’t want us to walk on “his” sidewalk. He considers that harassment by us – just us. We walk up and down the street for our health and pass his house six to 12 times a day. If he sees us through his window, or one of the more than 12 cameras...Read more